It’s no secret that most people feel energized and extra special and happy when they are around people. However, I belong to the minority of people who actually prefer being alone. I attribute this to a few things. Of course, growing up as an only child has made me very comfortable with spending time alone. In fact, it’s the norm for me. I also attribute this to my high sensitivity. I become easily overwhelmed with other people’s energy and often get panic attacks around large groups of people. It wasn’t until I heard my martial arts teacher tell us that there was a recent study conducted and that the majority of people would prefer to get an electric shock than to be alone and that completely blew my mind! I think I feel the exact opposite! It’s nothing personal against anyone, I just always feel my best and most relaxed self when I’m alone. Here are a few reasons why solitude is nothing to be afraid of and how it can absolutely rock!
You’re in Complete Control
Often in social situations, there is a ton of compromise involved. Not everyone wants to do the same thing or eat at the same place all the time. When you’re alone you don’t have to feel guilty for being selfish or feel guilty for doing what YOU want to do.
There are very few times in life where you get to be pilot and this, my friends, is absolutely one of those times and certainly take advantage of this opportunity!
You Get to be Creative
You’ve all heard the phrase, “Dance like no one is watching” or “Sing like no one is listening”? In my moments alone, I have had my biggest moments of inspiration and have felt the complete freedom of creative expression. In your moments alone, you get to take risks without experiencing any judgment from outside sources. Some of my favorite things to do is dance to my favorite songs in my underwear, do tarot card readings, belt my favorite songs at the top of my lungs, meditate, and color in mandalas.
Your Experience Independence
We have to realize that the only constant we have in our lives is ourselves, even if who we are is constantly changing. Solitude helps develop a better relationship with yourself. Being alone shouldn’t feel like punishment. The more you hang out with yourself, the more you feel better about your independence and feel as though you don’t need to depend on others to be happy. This is a very special and empowering feeling.
You Learn New Things
The other week I was in a situation where I was relying on someone for something and they got sick last minute. I thought I was totally screwed over beyond belief but learning how to deal with the situation on my own forced me to be incredibly creative, and I learned a ton of new alternative things that can help me out in the future.
You Experience Self Love
Being alone lets you discover what you love and and lets you soul search. The more you’re aware of what you love and and what you don’t love, the better you get to know yourself and the more you start to accept and love yourself.