Sitting in my favorite coffee shop, watching couples walk by hand in hand, I couldn’t help but wonder: Do we each get just one true love? One person who holds the key to our heart and our soul, and if we lose them, are we destined to wander the emotional desert, parched and alone forever?
For those of us that have loved deeply and lost, it’s a question that continually haunts us. The end of a relationship with someone we believed to be the one can feel like a cruel death—a death of hope, of future plans, of the person we were when we were together. And yet, life demands we keep going. But how can we possibly move forward when our hearts are stuck in reverse?
The Myth of the Soulmate
Society loves a soulmate story. One person, one chance, one great true love. But is that just a romantic ideal or is it a cruel fairy tale? Maybe it’s really not about one person being the one, maybe it’s about someone being the one for that particular chapter in our lives. Sometimes, we’re just not in sync—we have different dreams, we’re in different cities, with different timing. And sometimes, it’s nobody’s fault, it just is what it is.
But knowing that doesn’t lessen the heartbreak. It doesn’t stop the middle-of-the-night thoughts: Did I give up too soon? Was I not enough?
The Pain of Letting Go
Breaking up with the love of your life can feel like ripping out your own heart, only to realize it’s still beating but in someone else’s chest. Moving on seems impossible. We try distractions, rebound relationships, late-night wine sessions with friends who assure us there are “plenty of fish in the sea.” But how do we settle for another fish when we’ve already had the rarest of pearls?
Settling for Second Best—or Something Else Entirely
Here’s the truth: there really is no replacement for that one great love. But settling doesn’t have to mean choosing someone lesser—it can mean choosing differently. Maybe the second love isn’t a dramatic firestorm, but a slow, steady warmth that fills the spaces left empty. Or maybe it’s learning to love ourselves first.
Healing with Grace
Healing is messy. It’s crying in the shower uncontrollably, it’s deleting and re-entering their phone number, and it’s wondering if you’ll ever feel whole again. But it can also be waking up one day and realizing you went a whole hour without thinking about them. And then a whole day.
We heal by giving ourselves permission to feel everything—the pain, the anger, the love that doesn’t go away. We heal by remembering that while love is rare, it’s not finite. Losing that one great love doesn’t mean we won’t find another love just as meaningful. Maybe it’s just completely different.
The Big Question
So, is there just one true love? Maybe. But maybe love is less about finding the one and more about becoming a person who is able to love and be loved fully and deeply, even after the worst heartbreak.
Because if we’re lucky, life will give us another chance to love. And another. And maybe—just maybe—one of those chances will finally fill those broken places in our hearts and will feel perfect, just right and true.
Check out Rocco Pink’s new single GAGEY BLUE. Whether it makes you dance, cry, or both, his new single is set to leave a lasting impression.
About GAGEY BLUE
GAGEY BLUE is a deeply personal and sexy anthem that tells the story of a consuming, all-or- nothing love—a beautiful yet messy relationship that ended in heartbreak. The song captures the bittersweet wreckage of holding on when it’s time to let go, wrapped in sultry melodies and an irresistible groove.
“This song is my heart on fire,” Rocco Pink explained. “It’s about finding beauty in the pain of love and heartbreak. It’s sexy, raw, and will leave you breathless.”
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