It can be hard to find someone you want to form a serious relationship with. Things don’t really work in the ways that they used to, making it more difficult to find people who are your age and share the same interests. Dating apps make things a little bit easier for those who have a smart phone and are willing to reach out to the internet for help.
However, it can be hard to find somewhere there too considering everyone is looking for something different on these apps and most dates end in one of a few different ways:
- Ghosting after the first date
- A few dates and then never speaking again
- Actually getting a happily ever after
If you are aiming to get the last option on that possibility list, there are a few things that you need to know. I’m not going to try to give you the best dating tips imaginable, but I will try my best to help you find a serious relationship among the many people just looking for something fun.
And in order to help you find that, I am going to have to give you a few tips. Not necessarily for dating, but for setting up your profile and the first date. So, without delaying this any further, here are some tips to help you find a serious relationship on a hookup app.
Speaking of hookup apps, if you want to read more about the best apps you can use to go on as many dates as possible, check out the US Magazine article I linked out to.
Setting up your profile
The first place you want to start when you are trying to for a serious relationship on a hookup app? Your own profile. You want to attract the right people to your profile, and you want everyone else to run in the opposite direction so that they don’t waste your time.
There are a few ways you can make your profile presentable, without seeming scary to the other people on the app. Here is a quick guide with tips on how you can set up your profile.
Make it clear that you are looking for a serious relationship
When you sign up for a hookup app, you usually get to add a short description explaining who you are, what you like, and what you are looking for. This is where you tell people exactly that. Let everyone know that you signed up for this app in hopes that you would find someone who is looking for something a little bit more serious.
While the main purpose of the app is to find someone who you want to hookup with, that doesn’t always mean that you will not be able to find something more serious. And in order to make sure that you can find that something serious, you have to be direct on what you want.
Let people know that you are open to something more than just a hookup. Tell them that you are interested in getting to know someone on a deeper level. And when someone does come in to chat, don’t turn them away because of their looks, you want someone to be caring and loving above all, not cute. Thought if you can find someone with both, that is a bonus.
Make sure that you don’t look like you are coming on too strong
It is important to keep in mind that while you want to keep your point across, you also want to make sure that you aren’t coming on too strong. A lot of people will be reading the description and if you leave it to strictly people who want to have something serious, you aren’t going to get many replies because people will see this as a trap, or as someone who is obsessive.
Like I mentioned before, let people know you are open to developing a relationship and getting to know people more personally. But don’t tell them that you are only looking for something serious. You have to be open to someone looking for something fun and slowly building a trusting and serious relationship with them.
Stalking the other person
We both know that love is a two-way street. You can have your profile and description set up perfectly, but still run into the wrong people. Here are a few things that you need to look at when someone matches with you.
While it is sated in your bio that you want to have something more serious, that doesn’t mean that you are only going to match with people who want serious. Here is what you look for so that you don’t waste your time.
Look at their description and hobbies
If they say that they are adventurous, like meeting new people, and love to have fun, then they are probably just on the app looking for something quick and easy. While it doesn’t always mean that, it is the three call signs that you use when you are strictly just looking for a hookup.
Their pictures will tell you a story
If they have shirtless photos, or bathing suit photos, they are probably looking for something fun and quick. You shouldn’t waste your time with anyone who has very revealing photos.
However, if they have a pet, photos with friends, or if they are dressed up nicely, they might be looking for the same thing that you are. These are the types of photos that you want to see in your matches.
Make sure you have a connection over the phone:
A lot of people text for days before meeting in person. By this time, you have already become attached and seen this person as the love of your life. But you want to make sure that you have at least spoken to this person via video call or phone call before meeting in person.
You can never tell who a person is until you hear their voice and see their face. This is an important step that a lot of people miss, and that is why a lot of online relationships don’t work out.
Internet dating can be a difficult thing to learn, especially when you are choosing a hookup app over a dating app. It is important to remember that this is not your only option if you don’t find the exact person you are looking for. There are plenty of apps available, and there are plenty of people looking for a serious relationship just like you are currently.