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Fine-Tune Your Guy Radar – Be Proactive

Let’s face it; most girls want to know where to find a good man. The truth is they’re everywhere! But, before you will find them, you’ll need to figure out what you want. It will be a lot easier finding them if you’ve done your homework in advance.

By nature, most women are nesters. We seek men who complement our natural instinct to make our nest safer and more secure. We’re attracted to men who are stable and strong, and those who know who they are and what they want. Give us all that in a guy who can love and be loved in return without running for the hills when your relationship begins to broaden and deepen and we’re in heaven.

The days of women seeking out the bad boys who want to party all the time and avoid responsibility at all costs are over. Even in Hollywood, the modern-day, big screen portrayal of “sexy” is a man who is grown up, possesses a broader depth of character, and has the ability to express deep emotions.

The good news is that women looking for a man who is capable of building and committing to a long lasting relationship have a better chance than ever of finding him. Still, putting a little thought and planning into your efforts on the front end will massively improve your results on the back end. My plan makes it simple, giving you three key strategies you can start using today.

Expect the Best

There is tremendous power in knowing what you want and in expecting the best. When you visualize what you want, you tap into the enormous potential of energy that’s out there just waiting to deliver what you seek. The real reason why most people don’t get what they want is because they don’t know what they want. Not really. They don’t have a clear picture in mind so the results they get are just as fuzzy. Clarity is the key to finding the man of your dreams, so be clear about the details. Then, expect the best and you will get the best. This may seem like simple advice, but as I always say . . . simple is good.

Make a list of your ideal man’s traits. Make it specific. For example, maybe you want a man who treats you with respect and has good manners. You’d like a man who listens without interrupting you. One who opens the car door for you and has a kindness in his heart that everyone sees. This man would never put people down or judge them. The important thing is to be clear about what things are important to you. Next, make a list of deal breakers.These are the things that you absolutely will not tolerate in your relationship or your man.Try to get past surface things like the way he dresses or the car he drives; these are not the best way to evaluate your potential love. Be realistic too. No man is going to check every box on a long list. Keep in mind you’re not perfect either!

Location, Location, Location

Who says Mr. Right has to be right in your backyard? Often it’s necessary to put yourself in the right situation to provide you with the best opportunity to make connections. Even if you are not a big fan of sports, it pays to hang out at some of the games and participate in activities that put you in touch with manly interests. Unless, of course, men who are heavily into sports are on your deal breaker list. Then, always go with what you want first.

Attending boat shows and car shows in your area is a good place to start. Just about anything that runs on gasoline will attract most men.Æmotorized sports, racing cars, planes, or boats are good. Golf tournaments, ball games, hockey, snow skiing, horse racing, and adventure sports events are some other ideas. If home and garden is your thing, go to home shows or even your local Home Depot or high-end landscaping nursery. Remodeling and builders events tend to attract guys who are open to change, creative, and potentially handy.Ænot a bad set of qualities to have in a man. The bottom line is to think like your dream man. Put yourself in his shoes for a while and start hanging out in the places with the greatest opportunities to meet guys you’ll be drawn to.

Do Your Homework

The last suggestion in this three-pronged approach to finding Mr. Right is one of the most important.Ædo your research before you get in too deep. Be proactive and look for signs of trouble and spot red flags before your heart gets too involved.

With modern technology and the internet at our fingertips, it takes only a second to do some quick research. Google him. Check his social media profiles. I’m not saying you should become a stalker, but it’s a good idea to scope out anyone you meet these days whether it’s for business or for pleasure. You can learn a lot about someone by their Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook page. If he has all girls as friends that should be your first clue he’s probably a player.

Pay attention to how he treats his family, friends, and even the server at dinner. The things we say are a reflection of what we think and who we are. Is he looking at some other hot girl when he’s out with you? The telltales are everywhere and it’s up to you to do your homework, pay attention to the signs, and stick to your list instead of sticking around for a guy who isn’t at all what you desire or deserve.

Be proactive with your guy radar. As the saying goes, hindsight is twenty-twenty. So develop a crystal clear foresight. Do your homework. Put yourself in the right places at the right times. Be clear about your expectations. When you apply all three of these simple tips to your dating life, the floodgates of opportunity for romance and love will magically open and you’ll be protected along the way.

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