When Does Fashion Shaming Go Too Far?
“That color is awful on her.”
“Those pants are so 1995 and not in a retro way.”
“I can’t believe she’s still in her maternity dress. She gave birth 9 months ago.”
Have you caught yourself saying things like this? We all have. Both men and women. Because of #OOTD and selfies on social media in general, we are now more conscious than ever about what we wear and what other people are wearing. If you don’t look like your favorite influencer or your favorite celebrity, then suddenly you are irrelevant. But does is really matter if your wardrobe is trendy?
Personally, I don’t care what other people are wearing as long as they look happy wearing it; although I’m not a fan of excessive cleavage, short shorts that are too short and show off your butt, or skin-tight ensembles – no matter your size. (That’s not considered sexy and classy to my standards, but sexy is subjective.) However, as a person that works at a women’s magazine, I can’t help but encourage women to wear colors that flatter their skin tone and shapes that flatter their body type. Still, some women consider that unfair because what if they want to wear a bright yellow bodycon dress and their skin has yellow undertones? I shouldn’t care if that’s what they want to wear, right?
There’s so much pressure around us to dress a certain way. We see billboards on the way to work, Instagram posts from fashion bloggers, and we’re surrounded by co-workers that can influence our fashion decisions. We’re also hearing counter-arguments everyday from mom bloggers, family members, and friends who tell us to ignore the status quo and to wear whatever we want.
So who is right? Is everyone partially right?